The Path to Security Through Feeling: Embracing Our Whole Selves
In our quest for security, we often find ourselves building walls, creating distance, and attempting to control our environment. But what if the path to genuine security lies not in fortifying ourselves against feeling, but in feeling more deeply?
When we allow ourselves to feel more, something remarkable happens: we become more of who we are. Each emotion we embrace, each vulnerability we acknowledge, becomes another plank in the foundation of our authentic self. Like a house expanding room by room, we grow more spacious, and more capable of holding all that life brings.
Reclaiming Rejected Parts
Many of us learned early on to reject certain parts of ourselves as a survival strategy. This also occurs when we experience tragedy or trauma. Perhaps we tucked away our anger, muted our joy, or silenced our grief. These weren't wrong choices – they were necessary adaptations at the time. But now, these rejected aspects of ourselves wait in the wings, holding precious energy and wisdom we need for wholeness.
If you’ve found yourself waiting on something or someone in your external environment, consider it a sign that something inside of you is waiting to be discovered.
Building a Stronger Foundation
True security isn't built on the shifting sands of avoidance. It's constructed on the solid ground of self-acceptance and emotional awareness. When we reconnect with our rejected parts:
Our emotional range expands, giving us more resources to navigate life's challenges
We develop greater resilience through understanding and accepting our full spectrum of experiences
Our relationships deepen as we bring our whole selves to our connections
Our intuition strengthens as we learn to trust our full range of internal signals
The Practice of Feeling More
Embracing more feelings doesn't mean being overwhelmed by emotions. Instead, it means:
Acknowledging emotions as they arise, without judgment
Creating space for both comfortable and uncomfortable feelings
Recognizing that all emotions offer valuable information
Understanding that feeling more deeply actually leads to greater stability
Move Out of Survival
When we transcend beyond mere survival mechanisms and into full emotional engagement, we discover that security isn't about having fewer feelings – it's about having the capacity to feel more. Each reconnected part of ourselves becomes a new source of strength, wisdom, and yes, security.
The path to genuine security isn't about building higher walls or stronger defenses. It's about expanding our internal landscape, welcoming home the parts we've sent away, and discovering that in feeling more, we become more – more whole, more real, and ultimately, more secure.
Remember: The next time you feel insecure, consider whether the answer might lie not in feeling less, but in feeling more fully, more deeply, and more authentically. Your rejected parts aren't your enemies – they're the missing pieces of your foundation, waiting to be reclaimed.
